Patience as a virtue

However, for whom do I choose to understand is also critical. If I choose to understand for the other person, then there also comes an expectation that the other person also should understand at other times. But when I understand the other for myself (my peace of mind), then I don’t get into the loop of expectations. Over a period of time and events in my life, I’ve realised that my only job here is to keep myself happy and joyous and also learn, glean and garner virtues that help me be that on the face of others behaving how they want. So irrespective of how my loved and others behave, I choose to be patient because it helps me learn. Not the other way around.

Patience is a virtue that helps u. It may help others around you as a byproduct. That’s a bonus.

A day full of patience to you 😊

Struggle v/s suffer

I forget the above whenever I face a breakdown or a situation which saddens me. How much ever I want to think of the above, I end up struggling. But I don’t suffer. Yes, struggle is different from suffering. I’ve discovered that struggle gives me the strength to face the situation and learn what I need to. But suffering leaves me weak. It drains my energy whereas struggling gives me the energy and courage to think and act just like a caterpillar gathers strength to fly as a butterfly after the struggle of coming out of the pupa. Caterpillar struggles but doesn’t suffer. It’s a choice I make to make the struggle difficult for myself and suffer.

I choose to use that struggle to jump to my next journey. How about you? A strong morning 😃

Mystery or History??

So if you were the deer, where would you see? If you look for guidance from the past, then it’s depending on history. If you look into future, it will be a mystery. Now what then? Would you rely on history or mystery? I would look around. And first become clear with what’s so and my feeling about it. If I want to be afraid, I will be for sometime.  Then I would ask myself as to what would work in this situation. Fear would always be there. But it’ll not help now.  So what would take me through this situation? Looking around and finding a path to move and trusting myself of my choice would be my way out. If I walk a while on the path I chose and see that it’s a wrong path, I’ll come back and start again. 

Is this how we deal with situations? Or we just keep making things right or wrong, good or bad and worried. That’s takes away the power to make a choice and trust ourselves with that. So my friend, look at what works. Not what’s wrong or right. 

A working morning to you 😊

Gratitude

I always ask myself ‘Am I at home?’ And is my home worthy of living. My home could be my body or the abode that my body lives. I take care of both to bring integrity there and to be responsible. That’s the way I can show my gratitude to the privilege I’ve been bestowed with. I regularly clean my physical home and also my mental home. I go to the doctor when my body needs attention. This way I respect my body and take care of it. I eat quality food which nourishes my body. I exercise to keep my body in workable condition. Because health is a function of participation in life. Are you being responsible and grateful for all this? 

If not time to begin. 

A grateful morning 😃

Is love true??

This is such a wonderful question to ask which shifts my view from being a victim to being a learner. Many circumstances in my life I could shift by asking this question. Even now there’s a situation in my life that can make me feel sad and angry and spoil my days. My partner who loved me a lot suddenly is saying he doesn’t love me. This shattered me for a while. But then I asked the above question and started to see what am I supposed to learn. I’m seeing that I need to learn to love unconditionally irrespective of what my partner says or does. And still I being happy and joyous loving him. Is that possible? I’m slowly seeing that possible. I am able to love him more and love myself too. I’m amazed at the amount of love and compassion I have for him and myself. Today I feel privileged to be able to love this way. I thank my partner for teaching me this. Love him more for this. 

I know this seems crazy but it’s worth the life I live. I’m so grateful to life and to myself for giving me this learning. 

So start to see any circumstance around you this way. Life will uncomplicate itself. 

A learning morning to all 😃😃

Life is a conflict

Today I want to share with you how I’m experiencing life. How I’m experiencing joy, happiness, love, sadness, anger, everything equally. I felt guilt today morning because I didn’t make time to be with my son. So I spoke to him a while ago and asked him if he also felt sad. He said no. I didn’t know how to respond. Didn’t know whether to be sad or happy. Did I want him to miss me? I should be happy that he’s able to manage himself without me isn’t it? (He is 14 yrs). As  I am typing this I’m relieved.

I’m discovering how I want people to think the way I am thinking. Isn’t that absurd? But when actually somebody says something that I was thinking, I feel sad that I’m not the only one thinking that way. Oh god, aren’t we complicating our own thinking? Then how can we be peaceful when we are not ok with anything around us and within also? Any comments ?

Your answers are welcome. Want to know the diversity in thinking that we are.

A wondering morning 😃

Communication is key

On the journey of our growing up, we were taught what is right and wrong, good and bad behaviour. But very few adults told us why it is good or bad and right or wrong. And so we started to live by those rules blindly as if our life depends on it. And also teaching our children the same. But look again and answer for yourself  what, when, why, where and how of these rules. Then we can have our children reason it out and understand for themselves.

So it’s ok to be ok many a times. However, what we need to be careful about is how we are impacting our friends and family. So it’s perfectly fine to not live by the rules rather than forcefully doing them and feel stressed. However, it’s also necessary to be responsible how this act of ours is communicated to others. With what experience are the concerned people left is critical. So if you can communicate to them that you need your me time, apologise for the broken promise and reduce the damage leaving them complete, then that would create Love. Else the above behaviour would be construed as arrogance. So know the difference.

 A communicative morning 😃

To do or not to do!!!!

In continuation with what we saw yesterday, let’s look at the condition of restlessness that we are programmed into. That’s the condition of having to do something to feel worthy. A human being who doesn’t do much is branded lazy and good for nothing. So many of us fear that.

And so there was a time when I feared myself and would be so disappointed on myself if I spent my day not doing anything productive and would blame myself and feel guilty. All I got from this way of being was health upsets and anger. But then an accident and 6 months of rest changed all that and today I long to be with myself and look forward to do nothing sometimes and feel blessed. Do you also want to wait for some accident to happen or will you choose to wake up to yourself ???

Your morning 😃

Trusting the process of life

We learned to breath before we knew what life is. But we are least aware of that activity that keeps us alive. “Breathing” is that which gives us life. Are you even noticing that? Noticing is the least that we can do to respect that basic function that’s life. Isn’t noticing breathing easier than planning?

And Is it easier to plan or not to plan? In fact we need so much intelligence and thinking to plan whereas we need to do nothing not to plan. So shouldn’t it be easier not to plan?? But how come it’s the other way round for us? So strange. We all want to do nothing. But when there comes a time when all you have to do is nothing but trust the process of life, we can’t sit still.

Is it so difficult to just notice yourself breath and trust yourself??

A trusting morning 😊🤔

Right decision?

Life gives us circumstances where we have to make decisions which at that time is appropriate. Notice, that it’s only after we see the consequence of that decision that we brand it right or wrong. And we judge that consequence right and wrong based on what others say and think of us instead of trusting yourself. How absurd isn’t it?? And more absurd it is that we carry that decision all our life and keep creating our future based on that decision that we said was wrong 🤔😉.

Be compassionate my dear friends to yourself. Stop berating yourself for the decisions you’ve made.

A compassionate morning 😊

How can there be real love?

So aptly said by J Krishnamurthy. Couldn’t have been said better than this. 

After reading this, I’m looking at how I don’t love my mother or father or partner. I love the image of them. And that image is according to my perception and view which is given by my past. Wow, so then whom am I loving? Them or my image of them? And my image of them is again trapped in the past happenings of MY life. Oh god, it’s all about me, me, me. And when I don’t like something in my partner, that’s only something that I don’t like about my past. And so the 2 people in love is not me and my partner but me and my image of my partner which boils down to me and my past. So the love affair is between me and my past. Ufffff..... so what am I into???? 

What do I do now? Who do I be? I choose to be love allowing people to be the way they want to be. And learning to be with who they are and discovering myself in that. Don’t know if this will work. But worth trying. What say???😊

Are you responsible?

Have you noticed how trapped we are in our own small world? It’s like that frog in the well. And we thought ours was the only world. But now because of all the forwarded messages, we now know that there are other worlds like my parents world, my siblings world, my children’s world, etc... Did this knowledge help you to experience their experience and connect to them? We still hurt them and not take responsibility for that right? So can we now wake up to translate this knowledge into experience by asking them how have we hurt them?? And take responsibility? A responsible morning 😃😊

Recipe called LOVE

All my life until now I’ve been searching for love as a thing or an ingredient missing in the recipe of my life. But it’s only recently that I discovered that love is the recipe itself. And it’s not something that is given or taken. It’s a way of being. And it starts with me. I am LOVE. 

Does a bird need lessons in flying? Or a fish needs to learn swimming? So when I got that I am LOVE, I don’t need to give or take love, I am love. I experienced it for myself, then towards others who love me and hate me alike. And that fulfils me. So now I am not the ingredient. I am the recipe and the dish. And I can feel that. 

You too are the recipe. So don’t go fishing for the missing ingredient anywhere. It’s you that’s LOVE. And allow your loved ones to feel that too.  Ready?

Do you know why we delay?

Finally I took action to open this blog and start sharing my thoughts on a larger scale. It’s a small beginning right? I’ve been thinking of doing this for as long as 2 years and only now it’s become possible. But I wonder why would I take 2 years to do something which takes 10 mins? It’s absurd right? But just look. You too would be thinking of doing somethings which you want to do but you don’t take action. Look at how long you’ve been just pushing doing it for some petty reasons. Share here some of those actions which you want to take but something is stopping you. Would love to know. 

What’s meant to be

We all speak about destiny that’s already written. I agree it’s written, but when is it written, and who writes it? It’s you yourself is what I affirm. It’s how you speak about your past and present that creates and writes the future. So watch the words you use to describe your present. Is it creating more of past in your future or creating a new future? A creating morning 😊

Power to create

So wish for the wish that you wish for and god is waiting to hear your wish and fulfil them. God must have created humans and given hI’m the faculty to think and create such that God can relax. Also maybe he wanted to check his creation for efficiency and effectiveness. So he left some chapters as “As you wish”. That’s called evolving in evolution. 

And so it’s now our turn to be Gods and be responsible for what we create, such that the future generation is proud of our creations. Glitches are ok, even they become wonderful creations. Many great inventions have happened by mistake. Isn’t it ?

You are worthy to wish for anything. And create by yourself. Go ahead and use your power.   😊👋