Lately, I’ve noticed that I’m judging people a lot, and I don’t like that. That’s why when someone tells me I’m judging them, I feel angry 😠. But that’s true, right? I’m actually judging someone, and no one likes to be judged, including me.
I also realised that it’s human to judge. How else will my brain protect me? It’s by judging and evaluating everything around me that my nervous system gets the signals of threat, which helps me protect myself. So it’s natural for me to judge others, and it’s natural for others to judge me.
Then, where does the problem arise? The problem arises when I start to believe others' judgment of me as true and think that I’m responsible for their opinions and judgments. And all of us are doing this. Most of us at least.
After realising this, I’ve decided to allow people to judge me and allow myself to judge others. Now you may think this is really difficult. No. It is not. The moment I know others' opinions are coming from their judgments, I am relieved that that’s not the reality or the truth. It’s only someone’s judgment or opinion, and so I don't allow that opinion to stay in my brain.
Is this really easy? It's not easy, but it's possible. For this, I need to learn to trust myself and accept myself the way I am with all the good, bad and ugly parts of me. To do this, I need to take the support of my breath and body. Learning a simple exercise called PAUSE or GROUNDING can begin to take me on the path of accepting myself.
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